When we take out the fruits from the fridge, WHO do we Give to?
Should give the fruits to our Parents first or rather grandparents of our kids
(By giving to our children first, we are teaching them selfishness)
(2) 亲师配合 Parents-teachers coordination
父母懂得跟老师配合, 孩子行为规范就变特别快。 Parents who know how to coordinate with teachers will see tremendous improvement in the behaviour of their children.
(3) 夫妻配合教孝 Husband and Wife synergy in teaching filial piety
父亲要跟孩子讲, 你知不知道, ~~ 你母亲 怀胎 的时候, 吐成什么样子.
~~~ 你母亲在生产的时候, 叫成什么样子.
~~~~ 你三岁以前, 抱得那个手臂都要断了
Father should describe to his children the difficult ordeal that their mother went through
~~ during process of pregnancy (morning sickness) , ~~~ at the time of giving birth (screaming due to extreme pain) ~~~~ and raising him up (her hands are in great pain as a result of constantly carrying them before they are 3 years)
母亲要跟孩子讲, 你父亲长期以来, 工作有多辛苦, 佷多亊都点点滴滴为你在规划。
Mother should describe to the children
how tough their father spends long-term on his work so as to support and plan for the children.
Back to the time before one is married or during the courtship. ~~ The man is always staring at the watch & wondered why time is progressing so slowly? ~~~ The thoughts were revolved on the various activities that he should arranged for his girlfriend after knocked off from work.
见人善 即思齐 On seeing Others Do GOOD Deeds, we must consider Following their example.
纵去远 以渐跻 Our achievements may be lagging behind those of others, but we are making progress.
见人恶 即内省 When seeing Others Do Wrong, we must immediately Reflect upon ourselves.
有则改 无加警 After making a mistake, we should Correct it, or else be extra cautious NOT to repeat the same mistake.
Observe the successes and failures of other people.
~~ If People who Failed were to Give seminars, it would be Helpful.
You could see how people mess up and you wouldn’t do what they did. You could find out what poor people read and decide not to read it. Past failures and errors prompt us to amend current conduct so we don’t replicate the past.
~~~ Study from People who DO WELL. Each of us should be in a constant search for people we admire and respect and whose behavior we can model. It’s far better to deliberately choose the people we will permit to influence us than to allow bad influences to affect us without our conscious choice.
Di Zi Gui (弟子规), (Standards for being a Good Pupil and Child) was written during the reign (1661-1722) of the Qing Dynasty Emperor Kangxi by Li Yu XIu.
The book is based on the Ancient Teaching of the Chinese philosopher Confucius that emphasises the basic requisites for being a good person and guidelines for living in harmony with others. Like the San Zi Jing（三字经）, it is written in three-character verses.
Confucius emphasised that the Basic MORAL VALUES and VIRTUES should be FIRST taught to a child since young;
those values are to
(1) respect elders,
(2) respect brothers and sisters,
(3) respect wife and husband,
(4) respect the society and
(5) respect the country as a whole.
He believed without those values all other learning would amount to nothing.
Standards for being a Good Student and Child was taught by Chinese saints and sages of the ancient past.
First it teaches you How to be Dutiful to your PARENTS, and to be Respectful and loving to your SIBLINGS.
Next it teaches you how to be Cautious & how to be a Trustworthy person.
Furthermore, it teaches you to Love ALL Equally.
Be Close and Learn from people of Virtue and Compassion
有余力 则学文 After you have accomplished all the above values, you can learn other skills to improve the quality of cultural & spirtual life.