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Post by candy188 on Oct 27, 2013 18:16:58 GMT 7
(作者：陈文卿)
(Author: Chen Wen Qing)
为人父母的该教孩子什么呢？
What should the Parents TEACH their child?
一、行为举止要视场合而定，
演奏厅、游戏场、大饭店、家庭中各有不同的表现，父母要不断叮咛一一指导，而且要，让孩子动如脱兔、静似处子，分寸拿捏恰到好处，不会扰乱他人才是有家教的好孩子。
(1) Behaviour and manner will vary depending on the situation, like concert hall, playground, restaurant or home. Parents need to GUIDE their kids Constantly, so that the kids will BEHAVE Appropriately in different occasion without being a nuisance to others.
二、说话要轻声细语、字字分明，谈吐大方、用词优雅，加上一颗善体人意的心，一定会让孩子人气百分百、处处受欢迎。
(2) Converse Gently and Clearly with pleasant words as well as being EMPHATIC, will enable the child to gain popularity everywhere.
三、主动释放善意，待人亲切有礼，多一分尊重，少一分傲慢，自然赢得他人的友谊。
(3) Show KINDNESS spontaneously. By Treating Others with RESPECT will enable the child to garner friendship.
在社区中进进出出，别忘了教孩子向管理员道早问好，电梯里虽然不是很熟的邻居，我们也可以面带微笑、点头致意，上下公车，大方地说出心中的感激， Need to teach the child to GREET Others, even for neighbours that we met in the lift, we can smile and nod our head or show appreciation to the bus driver verbally when we take public transport.
就算爸妈接送上下课，也要习惯表达谢意，点点滴滴累积无比的热力，孩子就会像暖暖的冬阳，人们总是迫不及待的想要拥抱他。 Show GRATITUDE to Parents who fetch the kids to and fro school.
 气质是最好的化妆品，良好的家教更如端庄合身的服饰，衬托出高贵的人格，让人爱不释手、赞叹不已！ Personality is the best cosmetic, GOOD FAMILY EDUCATION is akin to a well-fitting clothing that complement integrity.
 Above article can be found under 目 錄, topics: 家教佳教: www.minlun.org.tw/3pt/3-dreamweaver/38-01.htm
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Post by candy188 on Dec 25, 2013 8:36:10 GMT 7
The result of Secondary school allotment was finally released on Friday, 20 Dec, but instead of seeing more happier faces from parents... it is the other way round. Parents are appealing for transfer of school on 23 Dec (Mon), despite given 6 choices of schools to choose from. I garner from parents feedback that they usually expect their kids to be lucky enough to qualify for their No. 1 choice and some even choose schools that are a far distance from their dwelling houses..... this is almost like investing.... didn't look at downside risk, merely focus on the upside gain.
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Post by candy188 on Jan 12, 2014 0:18:41 GMT 7
Find it rather disturbing that a mummy utilised the Ipad to coax the toddler of about 18 months to drink milk, instructing her maid to hold the Ipad tightly to distract the boy, after earlier failed attempt of dangling new train toy.  Have frequent disagreements with my hubby on the detrimental effect of exposing the computer games to my kids as I locked all the technology gadgets (handphone, computer, laptop, tablets) with passwords. My boy can only touch his half-hour computer games on weekends upon completion of his tasks (reading Chinese compositions as he is weak in the subject or delegated household chore), whereas, my 6-years old girl is denied access to the computer game.  
Tablets such as iPad used by parents to calm toddlers
Oct 03, 2013 00:00 By Ruki Sayid Nine out of 10 busy mums and dads admit to giving an iPad or similar device to a toddler to distract them
Frazzled parents are handing out tablets to under-fives in a bid to calm them down, a study has revealed.
Nine out of 10 busy mums and dads admit to giving an iPad or similar device to a toddler to distract them so they can get on with other tasks.
According to research, a fifth of under-fives have their own tablet or smartphone, rising to 60% of under 10s. Technology is the new kiddies’ “dummy” with seven out of 10 parents using the devices to buy some “me time” and put their feet up, away from demanding youngsters.
Six out of 10 parents said their young children were more likely to play a game or watch a movie on a handheld gadget than sit in front of the TV.
The rise of the iPad generation is being fuelled by time-poor parents who find gadgets are the easiest way to keep children occupied, with nine out of 10 saying they are not worried about under-fives using them.
Eight out of 10 parents have downloaded up to 10 apps on their own phone purely for their kids to use and seven out of 10 have bought their primary school-age child their own smartphone.
Worringly, the survey by lifestyle website goodtoknow.co.uk found More than half of mums and dads do NOT have Parental Control on the devices to STOP children accessing INAPPROPRIATE Website or Internet content.
 And parents and children have different ideas about what the gadgets should be used for. While nine out of 10 mums and dads believe the tablets and smartphones are helpful educational tools that should be used to boost school work, nine in 10 children use them to play games or access social media sites. The iPad generation spend at least five hours a day poring over the devices and four out of 10 use their pocket money to buy apps or games.
Charlotte Gunn, managing editor of goodtoknow.co.uk said: “As tablet prices drop, it’s no surprise these devices are becoming increasingly commonplace in the family home, but we were surprised at the number of parents who are using their tablets or phones as a way to keep the children quiet.
“With recent concerns from the Office of Fair Trading about children running up huge bills from app purchases, and 55% of parents surveyed admitting they don’t have any parental controls on their devices, it’s a worry what our children are getting up to when using mum or dad’s iPad.
 “Our findings reveal there’s clearly a big disconnect between what parents would like their kids to be using new technologies for and the reality of it, and it begs the question, what are 2013’s kids missing out on by spending all this extra time playing games and using social media?”
www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/tablets-ipad-used-parents-calm-2332807#ixzz2q6iHnrhZ 
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Post by oldman on Jan 12, 2014 7:35:39 GMT 7
The worst are the parents who let the child turn up the volume of their ipads. I have seen this very often in restaurants as well as in the trains and sometimes, even on the plane. I really don't understand such parents. Sadly, I see more and more of such parents. This is a selfish attitude in which such parents do not care about others and they are teaching their kids to do the same. I feel sorry for the kids who have such parents as I will not be surprised that these kids become anti social when they grow up. We all live in a society and we should be taught the right social norms as a kid.
For us, family time is the time to bond. No handphones and certainly no ipads on the dining table. Parents who don't spend quality time with their kids will usually regret it when the kids are older.
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Post by zuolun on Jan 12, 2014 8:21:31 GMT 7
The worst are the parents who let the child turn up the volume of their ipads. I have seen this very often in restaurants as well as in the trains and sometimes, even on the plane. I really don't understand such parents. Sadly, I see more and more of such parents. This is a selfish attitude in which such parents do not care about others and they are teaching their kids to do the same. I feel sorry for the kids who have such parents as I will not be surprised that these kids become anti social when they grow up. We all live in a society and we should be taught the right social norms as a kid. For us, family time is the time to bond. No handphones and certainly no ipads on the dining table. Parents who don't spend quality time with their kids will usually regret it when the kids are older. oldman, A child is better unborn than untaught. 养不教，父之过。I ever witnessed at IKEA Alexandra — A 3-year old boy who went round flipping young women's skirts and loudly shouting out the colour of their panties, right infront of his parents' eyes. He stopped doing it and burst into tears only when one of the women's boyfriend scolded him "naughty boy". His parents retaliated and made an ugly scene by threatening to call the police "to protect their son from being bullied". 無緣不成夫妻 無債不成父子净空老法师: 兒女跟父母緣分四大類Venerable Master Chin Kung: Karma and ChildrenChildren and parents have direct and close fate, no fate, seeking children are seeking less. Buddhism stresses children and parents have four karma called gratitude, complaints, debt collection, debt; practical terms, all living beings have four edges. The first is gratitude. The second is complaints. The third category is debt collection. The fourth is to repay the debt. 净空老法师谈儿女与父母的四种因缘关系
儿女与父母有直接而密切的缘分，没有缘分，求儿女也求不到。佛教讲，儿女与父母有四种因缘，所谓报恩、报怨、讨债、还债；实际而言，一切众生都有这四种缘。
第一种是报恩的。过去生中你们彼此互相有恩惠，他这一次又看到你了，到你家来投胎。这个就是我们中国人讲的孝子贤孙，他是来报恩的，怎么都学不坏，所谓的好儿女、孝顺儿女，这是过去修的善因。
第二种是报怨的。过去世你跟他有仇恨，这一世遇到，来做你儿女，将来长大了，做败家子，搅得你家破人亡，他是来报复的。所以与人不能结冤仇，外面的冤仇可以预防，他投胎投到你家里怎么办？你怎么防法？你把那个人害死了，好了，他的神识到你家来做你的子孙，做你一家人时，你怎么办？所以决定不能存害人之心！这就是所谓忤逆的儿孙，搅得家破人亡。
第三类是讨债的，讨债鬼。是父母过去欠他的，他来讨债。如果欠得少，养个两、三年他死了，你为他花了不少钱，还清了，他也走了。如果欠得多，大概供到大学毕业，快要可以做事情，他走了，这就是讨债鬼，债务讨清，没事了，就走了。
第四种是还债的。是他欠父母，他这一生遇到了要还债，他要努力工作供养父母。那也要看你们之间债务欠的多少？如果他欠父母很多，他对父母物质供养很厚，如果欠的债务很少，他对父母的生活供给很刻薄，反正让你饿不死就好了。为甚么？还债的！这一类人对于父母虽然能供养，没有恭敬心，没有孝顺心。报恩的有孝顺心，还债的没有孝顺心，甚至于眼里还嫌弃父母，讨厌父母，但是他生活费用会给你，至于多少？那要看他从前欠你多少。佛告诉我们事实真相，一家人就是这个关系集合。
家庭如此，一族人也是如此，凡是你所认识的亲戚朋友都是如此，只是恩怨债务少一点而已。恩怨债务多的时候，就变成一家父子兄弟，远一点就成为亲戚朋友。所以人与人之间都有缘份。你走到马路上，一个陌生的人对你点头笑一笑，也是从前的缘份。看到陌生人素不相识，一看到就不顺眼，也是过去的缘份。所以把这个事实真相搞清楚，我们真是起心动念不能不谨慎，千万不要跟一切众生结冤仇，不要跟一切众生有债务的关系。欠债的要还得清清楚楚，免得来生再还，这事情很麻烦，所以儒、佛的圣贤教训，都是劝我们把这些恩怨化解，这是最善、最圆满的方法。 |
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Post by candy188 on Jan 12, 2014 8:44:13 GMT 7
Hi oldman, I agree with your view that the parents nowadays are not inculcating the right value of being considerate to their kids which is a virtue that one enables one to succeed in career and happiness in life. 
This is the reason why I enrol my girl for chinese classical studies since 2012 at Blossom World Society, despite the objection of my hubby initially.  www.yellowbridge.com/onlinelit/sanzijing.phpHowever, he has become convinced on the rationale of stubborn decision as the positive transformation of my girl (pour water for parents, sit upright when reading, reminding the 13 years brother to be mindful of the door in mrt stations, greet strangers more frequently) becomes evident that values need to be taught and practised. The worst are the parents who let the child turn up the volume of their ipads. I have seen this very often in restaurants as well as in the trains and sometimes, even on the plane. I really don't understand such parents. Sadly, I see more and more of such parents.
This is a selfish attitude in which such parents do not care about others and they are teaching their kids to do the same. I feel sorry for the kids who have such parents as I will not be surprised that these kids become anti social when they grow up.
We all live in a society and we should be taught the right social norms as a kid. For us, family time is the time to bond. No handphones and certainly no ipads on the dining table. Parents who don't spend quality time with their kids will usually regret it when the kids are older.
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Post by candy188 on Jan 13, 2014 7:06:19 GMT 7
During a brief discussion with other parents yesterday on the merits of relying on teachers to teach values to kids. One of them brought out a valid point, if teachers are not equipped with the right value, could they project the right models to our kids? My son's kindergarten classmate (the boy who utilised the pencil & string to cut the throat of 2 classmates in K2) gladly shared with the form teacher that he had performed a "glorious" task of pressing the emergency button at the escalator leading to the SMRT station about 8 years ago.  His parents didn't discipline him nor explain the consequence of someone being injured as she felt that the boy is still an innocent child.  
Is A 4-Year-Old Girl Really 'Addicted' To Her iPad?
Posted: 04/29/2013 5:06 pm EDT News outlets from the U.K. to the U.S. were buzzing last week with the striking claim that a 4-year-old girl had been identified as Britain's youngest-known iPad "addict."  The tot in question first got her hands on the tablet when she was 3, The Sunday Mirror reported. Within a year, she was attached to it, using it up to four hours per day and becoming apoplectic when her parents tried to take it away.
But Dr. Richard Graham, the doctor who assisted the girl, fears media reports may have overblown both the severity and scope of the situation. "This is not a nation overrun with 4-year-olds addicted to iPads," said Graham, an adolescent psychiatrist who launched the U.K.'s first technology addiction service geared toward young people at the Capio Nightingale Hospital in London. In kids that young, one might see troubling "trends" but not necessarily a "4-year-old 'addict,'" he told HuffPost. "I think that was misunderstood." However, Graham does believe the girl's mother made the appropriate move for her family when she asked for help. The London-based technology addiction program he heads aims to address what he and colleagues see as a very real surge in children and teenagers becoming dependent on gaming and other forms of technology. The treatment is tailored: Patients whose "addiction" is accompanied by symptoms of depression or violent behavior may require inpatient care, while others need something less rigorous.
The 4-year-old girl, Graham said, received outpatient care, which focused on empowering her parents and putting her on a digital diet of sorts.
"It was a very minimal intervention," he explained. "Her use wasn't going to be out of control, massively, in the immediate future, but it was a way to find a better balance."
But when technology is omnipresent, parents may struggle with what balance really means.In the meantime, Graham said parents need to think seriously about the impact that technology can have on their children, so they don't find themselves at their breaking point, like the parents of his 4-year-old patient did. "We really need to be thinking about early intervention, perhaps in antenatal classes, in the same way that [soon-to-be] parents are advised on diet and sleep," Graham said. "From the beginning, parents need to be aware that when your child sees you on your device, they will want that, too."www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/04/29/ipad-addiction-children_n_3164345.html |
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Post by me200 on Jan 13, 2014 7:31:48 GMT 7
IMO, parents shall be responsible and accountable for teaching their children the right value. Teachers are only compliment and teach according to MOE's humanities value.
The unfortunate incident cited below may be an isolated case as I believe most teachers are our kids role model and mentor.
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Post by zuolun on Jan 13, 2014 10:40:53 GMT 7
oldman, A child is better unborn than untaught. 养不教，父之过。I ever witnessed at IKEA Alexandra — A 3-year old boy who went round flipping young women's skirts and loudly shouting out the colour of their panties, right infront of his parents' eyes. He stopped doing it and burst into tears only when one of the women's boyfriend scolded him "naughty boy". His parents retaliated and made an ugly scene by threatening to call the police "to protect their son from being bullied". IMO, parents shall be responsible and accountable for teaching their children the right value. Teachers are only compliment and teach according to MOE's humanities value. The unfortunate incident cited below may be an isolated case as I believe most teachers are our kids role model and mentor.
昔孟母，择邻处。子不学，断机杼。窦燕山，有义方。教五子，名俱扬。
养不教，父之过。教不严，师之惰。子不学，非所宜。幼不学，老何为。
玉不琢，不成器。人不学，不知义。为人子，方少时。亲师友，习礼仪。
香九龄，能温席。孝于亲，所当执。融四岁，能让梨。弟于长，宜先知。
首孝弟，次见闻。知某数，识某文。一而十，十而百。百而千，千而万。
三才者，天地人。三光者，日月星。三纲者，君臣义。父子亲，夫妇顺。
曰春夏，曰秋冬。此四时，运不穷。曰南北，曰西东。此四方，应乎中。
曰水火，木金土。此五行，本乎数。曰仁义，礼智信。此五常，不容紊。
稻粱菽，麦黍稷。此六谷，人所食。马牛羊，鸡犬豕。此六畜，人所饲。
曰喜怒，曰哀惧。爱恶欲，七情具。□土革，木石金。与丝竹，乃八音。
高曾祖，父而身。身而子，子而孙。自子孙，至元曾。乃九族，而之伦。
父子恩，夫妇从。兄则友，弟则恭。长幼序，友与朋。君则敬，臣则忠。
此十义，人所同。
凡训蒙，须讲究。详训诂，名句读。为学者，必有初。小学终，至四书。
论语者，二十篇。群弟子，记善言。孟子者，七篇止。讲道德，说仁义。
作中庸，子思笔。中不偏，庸不易。作大学，乃曾子。自修齐，至平治。
孝经通，四书熟。如六经，始可读。诗书易，礼春秋。号六经，当讲求。
有连山，有归藏。有周易，三易详。有典谟，有训诰。有誓命，书之奥。
我周公，作周礼。著六官，存治体。大小戴，注礼记。述圣言，礼乐备。
曰国风，曰雅颂。号四诗，当讽咏。诗既亡，春秋作。寓褒贬，别善恶。
三传者，有公羊。有左氏，有彀梁。经既明，方读子。撮其要，记其事。
五子者，有荀杨。文中子，及老庄。
经子通，读诸史。考世系，知终始。自羲农，至黄帝。号三皇，居上世。
唐有虞，号二帝。相揖逊，称盛世。夏有禹，商有汤。周文王，称三王。
夏传子，家天下。四百载，迁夏社。汤伐夏，国号商。六百载，至纣亡。
周武王，始诛纣。八百载，最长久。周辙东，王纲堕。逞干戈，尚游说。
始春秋，终战国。五霸强，七雄出。嬴秦氏，始兼并。传二世，楚汉争。
高祖兴，汉业建。至孝平，王莽篡。光武兴，为东汉。四百年，终于献。
魏蜀吴，争汉鼎。号三国，迄两晋。宋齐继，梁陈承。为南朝，都金陵。
北元魏，分东西。宇文周，兴高齐。迨至隋，一土宇。不再传，失统绪。
唐高祖，起义师。除隋乱，创国基。二十传，三百载。梁义之，国乃改。
炎宋兴，受周禅。十八传，南北混。辽于金，皆称帝。太祖兴，国大明。
号洪武，都金陵。迨成祖，迁燕京。十六世，至崇祯。阉乱后，寇内讧。
闯逆变，神器终。清顺治，据神京。至十传，宣统逊。举总统，共和成。
复汉土，民国兴。
廿二史，全在兹。载治乱，知兴衰。读史书，考实录。通古今，若亲目。
口而诵，心而惟。朝于斯，夕于斯。昔仲尼，师项□。古圣贤，尚勤学。
赵中令，读鲁论。彼既仕，学且勤。披蒲编，削竹简。彼无书，且知勉。
头悬梁，锥刺股。彼不教，自勤苦。如囊萤，如映雪。家虽贫，学不缀。
如负薪，如挂角。身虽劳，犹苦卓。苏老泉，二十七。始发愤，读书籍。
彼既老，犹悔迟。尔小生，宜早思。若梁□，八十二。对大廷，魁多士。
彼既成，众称异。尔小生，宜立志。莹八岁，能咏诗。泌七岁，能赋□。
彼颖悟，人称奇。尔幼学，当效之。蔡文姬，能辨琴。谢道□，能咏吟。
彼女子，且聪敏。尔男子，当自警。唐刘晏，方七岁。举神童，作正字。
彼虽幼，身己仕。尔幼学，勉而致。有为者，亦若是。
犬守夜，鸡司晨。苟不学，曷为人。蚕吐丝，蜂酿蜜。人不学，不如物。
幼而学，壮而行。上致君，下泽民。扬名声，显父母。光于前，裕于后。
人遗子，金满嬴。我教子，惟一经。勤有功，戏无益。戒之哉，宜勉力。 |
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Post by candy188 on Jan 13, 2014 10:54:00 GMT 7
Hi me200, concur with your view. Teachers are like supplementary classes. Responsibility to inculcate the right value to our kids should be the special privilege accord to parents. Parents are the FIRST TEACHER of our children. If we can't be bothered to spare the time to coach the right values to our kids, why bring them to life? Addiction to computer games is destructive. My hubby allowed my son to immerse in computing world daily in lower primary until he lost interest in everything, including the sharing with his younger sister. The tipping point was when his temper tantrums seemed beyond control, coupled with falling grades... that was when I implement the rule of half-hour computer games on weekends. I don't engage in computer games or watch tv program (only exception is during visits to in-law or friends' house) as I believe that I need to set the right model to the kids. Whereas, my hubby is a fan of computer games, which I find it tough to persuade him to spare his quality time on kids.  A sharing on the extend of addiction on a 4 years plus boy by a mummy: "Ever since we got the Ipads, they literary took away some of our quality time spent as a family. Initial weeks, Reese played with one, daddy with the other and me on my Macbook. All of us sitting in the sitting room busy away with our gadgets without a word for hours! It's so unhealthy isn't it? Then Reese got addicted, day and night glued to the Ipad. No longer spend time building blocks or playing with his toy, reading or drawing. It's scary. Just recently he got banned for 3 days from using the Ipad because he didn't want to do other things when asked to but just glued himself to the Ipad. Enough is enough. There must be a limit. So Reese is only allowed to play with the Ipad when we go out for meals, traveling in the car and when I am teaching at my teaching place (only after homeschooling work all done and good behaviour). On weekends, he will be allowed to play for an hour or two, maybe more... Everything must have a balance. Very important. Even now I try not to use the Macbook or Ipad while Reese is around. Try to spend more quality time together. Need to get hubby to do the same. Ever since implementing the new rules, Reese is back to his old self. Phew...."reesematthewkam.blogspot.sg/2011/05/ipad-addiction.html www.techaddiction.ca/game-addiction.htmlIMO, parents shall be responsible and accountable for teaching their children the right value.
Teachers are only compliment and teach according to MOE's humanities value. The unfortunate incident cited below may be an isolated case as I believe most teachers are our kids role model and mentor. |
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Post by candy188 on Jan 27, 2014 15:32:09 GMT 7
My mum’s neighbor (in his 70's) was being discarded by his banker eldest son after the father refused to break off tie with his mentally challenged younger son.  In a materialistic society like Singapore, Parents teach their children to be rich & earn good grades (engage top notch tutors at $150/hour when the kids are already scoring countless As), but neglect the importance of teaching them the right values of FILIAL PIETY, Empathy and Respect for others.
没有国, 哪有家, 没有家, 哪有我。Without the Country, where is the home? Without the HOME, WHERE is ME?
 
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Post by candy188 on Feb 7, 2014 21:23:27 GMT 7
More positive news on extraordinary people doing the right thing should be actively promoted by the mass media.   Teenager’s honesty is what sports can teach, says HengEducation Minister emphasises value of sports and the ‘grit’ from it PUBLISHED: 07 FEBRUARY, 4:04 AM SINGAPORE — It was, in his eyes, the right thing to do.
But the honesty shown by Dunman High School (DHS) student Lee Tai Yu during a National Inter-School Badminton Championships match last year was highlighted by Minister for Education Heng Swee Keat at the opening ceremony of the 2014 National School Games (NSG) yesterday as an example of the value that sports brings in providing a holistic education.
Tai Yu, 15, was in a doubles match against Ngee Ann Secondary School (NASS) last year when he surprised everyone by informing the umpire that the shuttlecock had touched him before it went out of play.
 It resulted in the official reversing his decision and awarding the point instead to NASS, which went on to win the match. Impressed by his actions, NASS subsequently wrote to DHS to suggest that they nominate Tai Yu for the Sportsmanship Award, the Minister revealed in his speech to about 700 guests at the event at ITE College Central in Ang Mo Kio to mark the start of the Jan 6 to Aug 29 NSG which will see about 55,000 students taking part across 28 sports. “We want our students to have a holistic education. So we have designed our school experiences for students to acquire a broad and deep foundation for a life-long journey of learning. One of such rich experiences is sports,” said Mr Heng. “Sports develop character and values, cultivate positive attitudes and strengthen people skills ... In my view, the most valuable trait that sports develop is grit. Grit is more than resilience. When a student has grit, he is passionate about a long term goal and perseveres towards it.
 “Researchers have studied HIGH Achievers. What contributes to their success are
===> Zeal and Persistence of motive and effort. This makes intuitive sense. The ‘grittier’ person is focused on winning in the long run.”
Mr Heng stressed that positive character traits like Tai Yu’s honesty is what which will make the NSG meaningful. But Tai Yu, who received the Sportsmanship Award for 2013, played down his actions.
“I just felt it was the RIGHT thing to do, so I stepped forward without any hesitation,” said the teenager who also had a brief chat with the Minister and a photo taken together. www.todayonline.com/sports/teenagers-honesty-what-sports-can-teach-says-heng
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Post by candy188 on Feb 10, 2014 10:12:12 GMT 7
Without teaching our kids the right virtue of being considerate to others, this breeds menace to society. It reminded me of an incident related by a friend who witnessed a preschool teacher being reprimanded by a 4 year-old mum, when she found the little girl crying in the class alone, after she was back from restroom. From the conversation, the mum jumped to conclusion that the teacher had bully her little angel & straightaway, carried the girl home, even before the class had commenced! How do we expect the teachers to mentor our kids without accord them with respect?
Road bully's mum asks "Why pick on my son?"February 5, 2014 - 11:08pm His Honda Civic was caught on vide o chasing two other cars mere hours apart on the same day, overtaking them and braking to a sudden halt in the middle lane.Mr Quek's mother pleaded for the online storm to die down and for netizens to leave her son alone. She said in a mix of English and Mandarin: "He's a nobody, not someone famous. Why would people do this to him?
"Many Singaporean drivers also have a foul temper. So why target just him?"www.tnp.sg/content/road-bullys-mum-asks-why-pick-my-son
Parents are the FIRST TEACHER of our children. If we can't be bothered to spare the time to coach the right values to our kids, why bring them to life?IMO, parents shall be responsible and accountable for teaching their children the right value.
Teachers are only compliment and teach according to MOE's humanities value. The unfortunate incident cited below may be an isolated case as I believe most teachers are our kids role model and mentor. Attachments:
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Post by candy188 on Feb 23, 2014 7:23:01 GMT 7
Saw a 20 plus man's bulky bag knocked on the knee of an old lady on the bus yesterday. Instead of apologising to her, he told her that she should have move in to avoid being hit by the incoming human traffic.  Why have the 1st world country become so inhumane, the home education from parents seems to neglect the importance of teaching basic value of being respectful to others. A few months ago, my 76- year old dad was nearly punched by a middle age man when he accidentally touched him when the crowd squeezed into the lift.   I observe different teaching methods of parents while waiting for my girl to finish her playtime at Paragon playground on Saturday. The rich (the brand of pram, dressing, accessories, tone of speech) will spend time on bonding with their kids,
 whereas, the average Singapore families will delegate the talking either to their maids or the Ipad. Parents are the FIRST TEACHER of our children. If we can't be bothered to spare the time to coach the right values to our kids, why bring them to life?IMO, Parents shall be Responsible and ACCOUNTABLE for teaching their children the Right Value.
Teachers are only compliment and teach according to MOE's humanities value. The unfortunate incident cited below may be an isolated case as I believe most teachers are our kids role model and mentor. |
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Post by oldman on Feb 23, 2014 8:08:01 GMT 7
Sadly, I think this is a reflection of our society. When people become too materialistic and chase after wealth, they lose their focus and forget that life is about the family. You are right that when one has sufficient wealth, he can then spend time thinking about life and he will then refocus on the family.
But not many families are so lucky as putting food on the table in Singapore is getting tougher and tougher.
I spent over 10 years in Northern Ireland and in my later years, I visited a lot of Irish houses... including farm houses. Though these families had very little materialistic wealth, they were very happy with their lives. They were always smiling and cracking jokes about life. The family unit in Ireland is very strong even though they may not have much.
Contrast that with Singapore where everyone is chasing after wealth. I think society has a part to play in the way we think and act. And of course, our government too has a role in it. What is the use of chasing after numbers if at the end of the day, the quality of life suffers. Governments should be measured by the happiness of its people rather the GDP of the country.
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