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Post by stockpicker on Jan 21, 2014 14:28:29 GMT 7
Read about this girl who saw an accident yesterday in Ang Mo Kio and not able to get help from the nearby clinics, so she decided to bring this to the press and also to the medical council. She was branded a "Good Samaritan". yourhealth.asiaone.com/content/good-samaritan-slams-amk-clinics-not-helping-elderly-accident-victimDoctors are educated to extend their help whenever needed but who to help the doctors if they are subsequently involved in legal proceeding as a result? Is our society at fault or the doctors are just too selfish? I was educated overseas. Used to give people a lift in my car whenever possible. Did the same when I came back and work. One day, saw this old lady having trouble walking and offered her a lift in my car. She was shocked and stared at me as if I was soliciting her. Gave a lift to a female colleague to work, then my neighbor told my wife to be careful as if I would be seduced. From then on, I decided never give anyone a lift. Then there was time that I saw ponding in the walkway, not getting any quick response from the authority, I decided to put some stepping stones for people to walk. Someone told me if I know I can be sued if they fell down because of the stones. I was told that many doctors nowadays did not want to reveal their profession when travelling as airlines will take note and call if there are medical cases to be attended in the plane. Not that the doctors do not know their duty but rather they were not often treated well and had to be the last to leave the plane giving all sort of papers to sign.. what Chinese often called 只有苦劳没有功劳。 Who is then responsible for doctors to develop such kind of behavior? Is complaining going to solve the problem? |
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Post by candy188 on Jan 21, 2014 15:07:26 GMT 7
Hi stockpicker, applause for the efforts to perform good deeds. Don't feel deterred to being a good Samaritan.   I can relate to your unpleasant experience. It seems that Singaporeans are generally suspicious of virtuous act.   On Sunday, there was an old man in his 70s boarded a packed bus, my little girl volunteered her seat by requesting to sit on my lap.  However, this senior citizen elected to stand up, till another lady gave up her seat (she sat right in front of him)....however, he stubbornly kept to his "stand".... ended up everyone felt so uncomfortable whenever the bus "rocked".  We should be taught the right mindset of RECEIVING (Accepting of assistance) graciously as well as the value of Giving (donation of time or money). Read about this girl who saw an accident yesterday in Ang Mo Kio and not able to get help from the nearby clinics, so she decided to bring this to the press and also to the medical council. She was branded a "Good Samaritan". yourhealth.asiaone.com/content/good-samaritan-slams-amk-clinics-not-helping-elderly-accident-victimDoctors are educated to extend their help whenever needed but who to help the doctors if they are subsequently involved in legal proceeding as a result? Is our society at fault or the doctors are just too selfish? I was educated overseas. Used to give people a lift in my car whenever possible. Did the same when I came back and work.  ~~ One day, saw this old lady having trouble walking and offered her a lift in my car. She was shocked and stared at me as if I was soliciting her. ~~~ Gave a lift to a female colleague to work, then my neighbor told my wife to be careful as if I would be seduced. From then on, I decided never give anyone a lift. ~~~~ Then there was time that I saw ponding in the walkway, not getting any quick response from the authority, I decided to put some stepping stones for people to walk. Someone told me if I know I can be sued if they fell down because of the stones. I was told that many doctors nowadays did not want to reveal their profession when travelling as airlines will take note and call if there are medical cases to be attended in the plane. Not that the doctors do not know their duty but rather they were not often treated well and had to be the last to leave the plane giving all sort of papers to sign.. what Chinese often called 只有苦劳没有功劳。 Who is then responsible for doctors to develop such kind of behavior? Is complaining going to solve the problem?
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Post by oldman on Jan 21, 2014 17:29:02 GMT 7
Once I boarded a plane and someone was sick and I was asked to assist. Fortunately, it was just a mild tummy upset and the rest of the plane journey was uneventful. Hence, you are right that airlines do notice your occupation if you are a doctor. Putting one's profession as a doctor in your passport can also be annoying in other ways. I remember putting this in my Malaysian passport. When I switched occupation and worked for IBM, I did a lot of travelling. Every time I entered the US or Canada, I was pulled to a room and questioned intensely by custom officers who thought that I will be working illegally as a doctor even though I showed them proof that I was working for IBM. I wised up later and changed my occupation to businessman and did not have any problems since. Now, with a Singaporean passport and occupation as a retiree, it is a breeze going through customs! When I was in Singapore working for IBM, I saw a road traffic accident and a young Malay boy was bleeding quite badly as he had fallen off his father's motorbike. Without hesitation, I stopped the car and helped the boy to the ambulance when it arrived. When the ambulance driver found out that I was a doctor, he asked if I can accompany the boy to the hospital as he must be worried about the boy's condition. As the boy was bleeding quite badly, I agreed and after bandaging the wound, I put up a drip while in the ambulance. My wife drove the car and told me that the ambulance was going so fast that she could not catch up! On reaching the hospital, the A&E doctors took over and I heard that the boy recovered fully. After the incident, I felt cold shivers running down my spine. You see, I had no medical insurance coverage as I was then working for IBM. Yet, my conscience told me that the boy needed urgent medical attention as he lost quite a bit of blood. If I did not render assistance, he may not have survived. This is when your conscience and ethics as a doctor fight with your knowledge that you can be sued for giving assistance. Without medical insurance coverage, I was exposing myself to unlimited liability. As a young life was at stake, it was easy to make that decision. I was trained as an emergency doctor and if I could not use my skills to help save a life, there must be something terribly wrong with me. Even 20 years ago when I was practicing as a doctor in the UK, the medical insurance corporation highlighted to us that they will not cover us if we rendered assistance beyond the scope of our work.... meaning that we may not be covered if we provide road side assistance. I don't know what the medical insurance coverage is like in Singapore but I will not be surprised that it is along those same lines. At the end of the day, every doctor will have to cross this bridge of either rendering assistance and exposing himself to unlimited liability or not doing anything. I think most doctors will look at the situation and if it is dire and a person's life is at stake, he will do what is necessary to save that life. However, if the person's life is not at stake, he is more likely to observe and only intervene when things take a turn for the worse. Minimally, he should at least take a look as looking does not expose one to anything. If it is beyond his skill level, he can always say so and take a step back. Read about this girl who saw an accident yesterday in Ang Mo Kio and not able to get help from the nearby clinics, so she decided to bring this to the press and also to the medical council. She was branded a "Good Samaritan". yourhealth.asiaone.com/content/good-samaritan-slams-amk-clinics-not-helping-elderly-accident-victimDoctors are educated to extend their help whenever needed but who to help the doctors if they are subsequently involved in legal proceeding as a result? Is our society at fault or the doctors are just too selfish? I was educated overseas. Used to give people a lift in my car whenever possible. Did the same when I came back and work. One day, saw this old lady having trouble walking and offered her a lift in my car. She was shocked and stared at me as if I was soliciting her. Gave a lift to a female colleague to work, then my neighbor told my wife to be careful as if I would be seduced. From then on, I decided never give anyone a lift. Then there was time that I saw ponding in the walkway, not getting any quick response from the authority, I decided to put some stepping stones for people to walk. Someone told me if I know I can be sued if they fell down because of the stones. I was told that many doctors nowadays did not want to reveal their profession when travelling as airlines will take note and call if there are medical cases to be attended in the plane. Not that the doctors do not know their duty but rather they were not often treated well and had to be the last to leave the plane giving all sort of papers to sign.. what Chinese often called 只有苦劳没有功劳。 Who is then responsible for doctors to develop such kind of behavior? Is complaining going to solve the problem? |
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Post by zuolun on Jan 21, 2014 17:33:35 GMT 7
I remembered I too had a bad experience at one of the Mcdonald's outlets. Many years ago, I saw a young mother on one hand carrying one kid and another hand pushing a pram with a sleeping baby inside struggling to enter Mcdonald's with the help of her maid who was carrying 2 heavy big bags on one hand and another hand holding onto one of the 2-panel glass entrance. The Mcdonald's was rather empty inside and outside then and as I was standing right behind them, so naturally I quickly walked forward and offered to hold both sides of the doors for them. While I was still holding onto the doors like a bell-boy; the young mother, her 2 children and her maid passed thru and headed straightway to the service counter to order their food... I always believe that it's more blessed to give than to receive but sometimes, it doesn't pay to be kind, especially if the receiver who takes things for granted and won't ever know how to appreciate by simply saying "Thank You". Read about this girl who saw an accident yesterday in Ang Mo Kio and not able to get help from the nearby clinics, so she decided to bring this to the press and also to the medical council. She was branded a "Good Samaritan". yourhealth.asiaone.com/content/good-samaritan-slams-amk-clinics-not-helping-elderly-accident-victimDoctors are educated to extend their help whenever needed but who to help the doctors if they are subsequently involved in legal proceeding as a result? Is our society at fault or the doctors are just too selfish? I was educated overseas. Used to give people a lift in my car whenever possible. Did the same when I came back and work. One day, saw this old lady having trouble walking and offered her a lift in my car. She was shocked and stared at me as if I was soliciting her. Gave a lift to a female colleague to work, then my neighbor told my wife to be careful as if I would be seduced. From then on, I decided never give anyone a lift. Then there was time that I saw ponding in the walkway, not getting any quick response from the authority, I decided to put some stepping stones for people to walk. Someone told me if I know I can be sued if they fell down because of the stones. I was told that many doctors nowadays did not want to reveal their profession when travelling as airlines will take note and call if there are medical cases to be attended in the plane. Not that the doctors do not know their duty but rather they were not often treated well and had to be the last to leave the plane giving all sort of papers to sign.. what Chinese often called 只有苦劳没有功劳。 Who is then responsible for doctors to develop such kind of behavior? Is complaining going to solve the problem? |
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Post by oldman on Jan 21, 2014 17:58:44 GMT 7
Sadly, we are not a graceful society. When I was in a car showroom a few days ago, I saw a family with 2 young kids rushing to the door from the opposite direction. I opened the door and naturally, the kids rushed through. What was more amazing was that the father and mother then walked through the glass door without even looking at me, let alone thank me. Yes, I was in my usual bermudas ..... but surely, I don't look like a door opener! I agree that it does not pay to be kind. I think in Singapore, it is getting harder and harder to be gracious.... I remembered I too had a bad experience at one of the Mcdonald's outlets. Many years ago, I saw a young mother on one hand carrying one kid and another hand pushing a pram with a sleeping baby inside struggling to enter Mcdonald's with the help of her maid who was carrying 2 heavy big bags on one hand and another hand holding onto one of the 2-panel glass entrance. The Mcdonald's was rather empty inside and outside then and as I was standing right behind them, so naturally I quickly walked forward and offered to hold both sides of the doors for them. While I was still holding onto the doors like a bell-boy; the young mother, her 2 children and her maid passed thru and headed straightway to the service counter to order their food... I always believe that it's more blessed to give than to receive but sometimes, it doesn't pay to be kind, especially if the receiver who takes things for granted and won't ever know how to appreciate by simply saying "Thank You". |
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Post by candy188 on Jan 21, 2014 19:07:14 GMT 7
Hi oldman, kudos for the effort to save fragile lives. Doctor is accord with high respect because we are taught that doctors save lives.  Salute to Dr Chao & all medical staff.  Remembering S'pore's Sars heroes: Gone but never forgotten His was one of the most heart-rending stories to come from the Sars (severe acute respiratory syndrome) outbreak a decade ago. Vascular surgeon Alexandre Chao, then 37, had rushed back from Los Angeles (LA) where he was meant to be spending a well-deserved vacation with his wife. The date was April 5, 2003. "One by one, his colleagues had fallen to the viral attack. He was the only 'clean' surgeon available to run the medical surgery as he had been away; so duty called," his widow, Associate Professor Koh Woon Puay, now 43, tells The New Paper on Sunday. "Just four days before, he had persuaded me not to travel to Toronto to present a paper. There had been an outbreak of Sars and he was worried for my safety," she says, trying to hold back tears. "I don't remember ever trying to dissuade him from returning. Not even once." Before he left LA, Dr Chao had told his wife: "I'll be very careful. I will not put our family at risk." That was the last time she saw him alive.
Seventeen days later, Dr Chao died from Sars at the Singapore General Hospital (SGH) where he had worked tirelessly.Once I boarded a plane and someone was sick and I was asked to assist. Fortunately, it was just a mild tummy upset and the rest of the plane journey was uneventful. Hence, you are right that airlines do notice your occupation if you are a doctor.  Putting one's profession as a doctor in your passport can also be annoying in other ways. I remember putting this in my Malaysian passport. When I switched occupation and worked for IBM, I did a lot of travelling. Every time I entered the US or Canada, I was pulled to a room and questioned intensely by custom officers who thought that I will be working illegally as a doctor even though I showed them proof that I was working for IBM. I wised up later and changed my occupation to businessman and did not have any problems since. Now, with a Singaporean passport and occupation as a retiree, it is a breeze going through customs! When I was in Singapore working for IBM, I saw a road traffic accident and a young Malay boy was bleeding quite badly as he had fallen off his father's motorbike.
Without hesitation, I stopped the car and helped the boy to the ambulance when it arrived. When the ambulance driver found out that I was a doctor, he asked if I can accompany the boy to the hospital as he must be worried about the boy's condition .
As the boy was bleeding quite badly, I agreed and after bandaging the wound, I put up a drip while in the ambulance. My wife drove the car and told me that the ambulance was going so fast that she could not catch up! On reaching the hospital, the A&E doctors took over and I heard that the boy recovered fully. After the incident, I felt cold shivers running down my spine. You see , I had no medical insurance coverage as I was then working for IBM. Yet, my Conscience told me that the boy needed urgent medical attention as he lost quite a bit of blood.
If I did not render assistance, he may not have survived. This is when your conscience and ethics as a doctor fight with your knowledge that you can be sued for giving assistance.  Without medical insurance coverage, I was exposing myself to unlimited liability. As a young life was at stake, it was easy to make that decision.
I was trained as an emergency doctor and if I could not use my skills to help save a life, there must be something terribly wrong with me. Even 20 years ago when I was practicing as a doctor in the UK, the medical insurance corporation highlighted to us that they will not cover us if we rendered assistance beyond the scope of our work.... meaning that we may not be covered if we provide road side assistance. I don't know what the medical insurance coverage is like in Singapore but I will not be surprised that it is along those same lines. At the end of the day, every doctor will have to cross this bridge of either rendering assistance and exposing himself to unlimited liability or not doing anything. I think most doctors will look at the situation and if it is dire and a person's life is at stake, he will do what is necessary to save that life. However, if the person's life is not at stake, he is more likely to observe and only intervene when things take a turn for the worse.  Minimally, he should at least take a look as looking does not expose one to anything. If it is beyond his skill level, he can always say so and take a step back. Read about this girl who saw an accident yesterday in Ang Mo Kio and not able to get help from the nearby clinics, so she decided to bring this to the press and also to the medical council. She was branded a "Good Samaritan". yourhealth.asiaone.com/content/good-samaritan-slams-amk-clinics-not-helping-elderly-accident-victimDoctors are educated to extend their help whenever needed but who to help the doctors if they are subsequently involved in legal proceeding as a result? Is our society at fault or the doctors are just too selfish?
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Post by oldman on Jan 21, 2014 19:16:21 GMT 7
His father, the late Prof Chao Tzee Cheng was a very likeable and humorous guy. I met him quite often when I was with the Association of Informatics in Medicine, Singapore (AIMS). Life is indeed short and we should live it well.
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Post by zuolun on Jan 22, 2014 9:24:04 GMT 7
Sadly, we are not a graceful society. When I was in a car showroom a few days ago, I saw a family with 2 young kids rushing to the door from the opposite direction. I opened the door and naturally, the kids rushed through. What was more amazing was that the father and mother then walked through the glass door without even looking at me, let alone thank me. Yes, I was in my usual bermudas ..... but surely, I don't look like a door opener! I agree that it does not pay to be kind. I think in Singapore, it is getting harder and harder to be gracious.... oldman, This is one of the saddest stories ever told that it doesn't pay to be kind. ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------- A true story of a full-time professional stock trader, Gerald and his kindhearted and generous friend, Ah HuatThe death of veteran MediaCorp actor, Huang Wen Yong reminded me of this sad story... Gerald's deceased friend, Ah Huat also died of stomach cancer (last stage) in late-2011, he had all the signs and symptoms exactly the same as Huang Wen Yong. Gerald lost everything and was heavily in debt when the stock market crashed in 2008 but he was given an opportunity (a 6-digit sum of money as seed capital) by his kindhearted and generous friend, Ah Huat yet he didn't know how to appreciate it and had wasted it due to his selfish and inconsiderate character. The money from Ah Huat was like GOD sent to Gerald during late-2008 to early-2009 when the market hit rock-bottom then. As an experienced trader who knew how to use leverage via margin and CFD a/c, he did exceptionally well in his portfolio of stocks, particularly on one stock, which he vested heavily, had turned out to be a 12-bagger. "When there is no win, no lose, nobody has anything to say. But when you make or lose money, there will be disagreements." Success blinded Gerald to become extremely greedy for more profits; he ignored Ah Huat's advice to lock in some profits when market was volatile again. He never thought of taking some profits off the table to repay some of the seed capital to Ah Huat when times were good. Ah Huat passed away suddenly 3 hours after returning from a 5D4N short cruise holiday with his family. He had good foresight that Gerald had the required skill to make back what he had lost in the stock market if given a chance at the right time; what he didn't foresee was that, Gerald was back to square one due to character fault. Although Ah Huat didn't get back a single cent, it seemed that he was more concern of Gerald's well being and his family than the money. His last wish to his wife was that, after his death, informed Gerald to come to his wake and passed an important letter to him. Gerald was informed but he didn't show up to pay his last respect to Ah Huat and that important letter was later handed over to the lawyer as instructed. It was real sad that Ah Huat had left a substantial amount of money to Gerald but since he didn't go to the wake to collect the letter from Ah Huat's wife, he missed the deadline to claim the money. (Ah Huat's family members were fully aware of his kind deed to Gerald prior to his death.) And the lawyer was instructed to donate that substantial amount of money to a long list of designated charitable organizations accordingly. This true story has a sad ending. The one who left this world peacefully without much pain and suffering was a blessing. The one who remained in this world suffered from regrets and mistakes. GOD always give people a 2nd chance in life but they do not know how to appreciate and treasure it. GOD punished Gerald for being ungrateful to Ah Huat, who had financially helped him time and again. In life, when one falls from grace, it's very difficult to get back on track; whether one is given a 2nd chance to make a successful comeback, sometimes it depends on LUCK, too.  |
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Post by oldman on Jan 22, 2014 12:41:00 GMT 7
Zuolun, I too have very bad experiences with lending money. Most of the time, it never comes back. Nowadays, I simply say no as there really is no point trying to be nice and in the end, feel that you have been taken for a ride.
Tell you a real story. When I started SI, I was on a shoe string budget as I needed to stretch my money given that I had then no income. A relative needed money badly and told me that his business would collapse if I did not lend him the money. But, I too needed the money as I just started the company. His solution was to return the money to me within 2 weeks. I thought that this was doable as I did not need the money immediately.
So, I lent him the money only to realise that the bulk of the money was used to pay the arrears in his car loan so that he can continue to drive his 3 year old Mercedes. While I continued to take the bus and MRT to meetings, this guy borrowed money from me to drive around. His reasoning was that he needed to show his customers that his business remain sound. Of course I disagreed but it was too late.
He never returned the money in 2 weeks. It was only 3 years later, that his company folded and I was able to take a 15 year old car as part payment for my loan. By then, SI was already on stable ground and I did not need the money.
I have learnt my lesson in life. No more lending money. People who need to borrow money from you are unlikely to be grateful for your kindness. I rather donate the money to charity.
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Post by zuolun on Jan 22, 2014 13:31:36 GMT 7
Zuolun, I too have very bad experiences with lending money. Most of the time, it never comes back. Nowadays, I simply say no as there really is no point trying to be nice and in the end, feel that you have been taken for a ride. Tell you a real story. When I started SI, I was on a shoe string budget as I needed to stretch my money given that I had then no income. A relative needed money badly and told me that his business would collapse if I did not lend him the money. But, I too needed the money as I just started the company. His solution was to return the money to me within 2 weeks. I thought that this was doable as I did not need the money immediately. So, I lent him the money only to realise that the bulk of the money was used to pay the arrears in his car loan so that he can continue to drive his 3 year old Mercedes. While I continued to take the bus and MRT to meetings, this guy borrowed money from me to drive around. His reasoning was that he needed to show his customers that his business remain sound. Of course I disagreed but it was too late. He never returned the money in 2 weeks. It was only 3 years later, that his company folded and I was able to take a 15 year old car as part payment for my loan. By then, SI was already on stable ground and I did not need the money. I have learnt my lesson in life. No more lending money. People who need to borrow money from you are unlikely to be grateful for your kindness. oldman, My late mom's quote: "People who borrow money from you will never return the money to you; treat it as a charitable donation if you lend them money."
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Post by stockpicker on Jan 23, 2014 10:46:07 GMT 7
Is this how parents today bringing up their children to be the future masters of our country? I was told in the olden days, teachers used to punish naughty students and the parents were not strongly against teachers doing so. Today, the parents are totally different. Is it those days that they have plenty of children and parents are afraid that the school would expel their naughty children or they were just not having enough time to look after the welfare of their children? All I can remember was that my parents used to be very strict; I used to get cannings from them if I misbehaved at home, at school and elsewhere. What will be happening to these naughty children? Will they behave when they grow up or they will be another gangster or terrorist? It must be difficult for parents to set an example if they themselves are brought up in families that do not observe some disciplines. They said, like father, like son. I hope the parents of this student can see the stomp video and do something quickly to up-bring their kids with good manners. singaporeseen.stomp.com.sg/singaporeseen/this-urban-jungle/student-yells-at-male-teacher-and-forces-him-to-apologise-for-shouting-at-him |
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Post by zuolun on Jan 23, 2014 12:00:35 GMT 7
Is this how parents today bringing up their children to be the future masters of our country? I was told in the olden days, teachers used to punish naughty students and the parents were not strongly against teachers doing so. Today, the parents are totally different. Is it those days that they have plenty of children and parents are afraid that the school would expel their naughty children or they were just not having enough time to look after the welfare of their children? All I can remember was that my parents used to be very strict; I used to get cannings from them if I misbehaved at home, at school and elsewhere. What will be happening to these naughty children? Will they behave when they grow up or they will be another gangster or terrorist? It must be difficult for parents to set an example if they themselves are brought up in families that do not observe some disciplines. They said, like father, like son. I hope the parents of this student can see the stomp video and do something quickly to up-bring their kids with good manners. singaporeseen.stomp.com.sg/singaporeseen/this-urban-jungle/student-yells-at-male-teacher-and-forces-him-to-apologise-for-shouting-at-himYears ago, I visited a friend who worked at home (a 5-rm HDB flat) in the afternoon at around 1.30pm and saw her 8-year old son came back from school with the filippo maid following behind carrying his school bag. The 1st thing he did was to quickly run and sit on the sofa with his hands and legs widely opened up like the Chinese character "da" (大).
But what he did next was beyond my imagination. He ordered the filippo maid to take off his shoes and socks and go get a can of chilled coke for him. I used to watch such scene only in old Hong Kong Cantonese movies where the filthy rich master's son is being served by the "amah" (maid wearing white and black uniform) but never expected to see it happened in my friend's 5-rm HDB flat...  |
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Post by candy188 on Jan 23, 2014 19:27:08 GMT 7
Hi stockpicker, concur with your view. 
My parents are not as highly educated but they emphasize basic value of respect. They have absolute faith in the teachers by entrusting the right of discipline at their discretion, unlike parents nowadays that engage their legal adviser if their dear kids are being scolded in school. Without accord respect to teachers, how do one learn the right knowledge.
 Reminded me of the silly case of parents being detained for smacking child in Sweden. 
www.bbc.co.uk/news/blogs-news-from-elsewhere-25828643Society nowadays are splashed with bountiful tips on how to motivate the kids, ie. solely focusing on the carrot  & ignoring the stick as effective tool to discipline our future leaders.Few weeks ago, a friend relate to me an incident from her relative.... the mummy was cooking the dinner halfway when there is an incoming message, "mummy, is dinner ready?"..... it came from her son's bedroom.... I almost fell down from my chair upon hearing that the mum actually replied, "5 more minutes." If parent is obedient to their kids out of love, do you think the kids know how to behave appropriately outside well-protected house?  Is this how parents today bringing up their children to be the future masters of our country? I was told in the olden days, teachers used to punish naughty students and the parents were not strongly against teachers doing so. Today, the parents are totally different. Is it those days that they have plenty of children and parents are afraid that the school would expel their naughty children or they were just not having enough time to look after the welfare of their children? All I can remember was that my parents used to be very strict; I used to get cannings from them if I misbehaved at home, at school and elsewhere. What will be happening to these naughty children? Will they behave when they grow up or they will be another gangster or terrorist? It must be difficult for parents to set an example if they themselves are brought up in families that do not observe some disciplines.  They said, like father, like son. I hope the parents of this student can see the stomp video and do something quickly to up-bring their kids with good manners.singaporeseen.stomp.com.sg/singaporeseen/this-urban-jungle/student-yells-at-male-teacher-and-forces-him-to-apologise-for-shouting-at-him
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Post by candy188 on Jan 24, 2014 11:07:34 GMT 7
Hi Oldman, I am sure they appreciate your kind gesture. Somehow, Singaporeans are not comfortable uttering "THANK YOU" and accepting compliments, despite being labelled as a developed country.  We can't dictate the behaviour of others but we should ensure that we do not pick up the bad habit.  There is this stern faced bus driver (whereby I boarded the bus to send my girl to school every morning) that I had not seen his smile once. I noticed that smile begins to form on his face since the day my girl passed a goodies bag (her birthday) to him last year.... and he actually went out of his way to help an old couple count the coins.   Sadly, we are not a graceful society. When I was in a car showroom a few days ago, I saw a family with 2 young kids rushing to the door from the opposite direction. I opened the door and naturally, the kids rushed through. What was more amazing was that the father and mother then walked through the glass door without even looking at me, let alone thank me. Yes, I was in my usual bermudas ..... but surely, I don't look like a door opener!  I agree that it does not pay to be kind. I think in Singapore, it is getting harder and harder to be gracious....
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Post by zuolun on Feb 2, 2014 10:22:39 GMT 7
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